The Importance of Being Hated(Better version).

There is a secret shame in the “it is who you know” crusaders .A quiet admission that “they” cant get there on their own.This is because “they”are hard to debate because especially since “they”never seem to be in the room whenever anyone makes reference to them.They are losers.They are users.They are failures.They dont realise life is cruelly ,mericrotacy ,and everyone who suceeds completely deserves it.¹ Those who dont agree with this are best at suceeding at nothing.You see they want you to believe the breakthrough to power is all cultivating allies ,so you spend time and resources trying to make friends and influence people(It’s hectic ,since you have to master everyone’s birthday dates and the specific dates their pets died - if they come from the suburbs ,and top it all off as their mental health therapist too.Unpaid.Yes ,unpaid).And this is why they fail.Its not who is on your side ; it is who is against you .Unlike Dale Carnegie you dont need to win friends and influence people.What you need is (a.)one quality nemesis,and (b.)one archenemy.These are the most important characters in the life of any successful human.Nemeses and archenemies are not our obstacle ,they are our architects.

So,you probably ask: what is the difference between my nemesis and my archyenemy?The short answer is:you kind of like your nemesis despite the fact you despise him.If your nemesis invited you out for cocktails , you would accept the offer.If he got involved in an accident , you would visit him in the emergency ward and (privately) shed a tear over his injury.But you would never have drinks with your archenemy ,unless you were attempting to spike his drink with methanol.(…but “You can’t kill. You don’t have it in you. You have a heart. And in this game, that’s a liability” -Agent Mahone to Michael Scofield, Prison Break SN2 (Buried) ). If you were to perish ,your archenemy would throw a party ,steal you estate ,marry your wife ,and kill you children.You hate your archenemy so much that you guard that hatred ,because the last thing you’d ever give him is the satisfaction of knowing.

To better understand this distinction ,ask any woman ,she will give you a masterclass . Women have intuitively understood the nemesis/archenemy dichotomy.Every women I know has had atleast one close friend whose sole purpose in life is to criticize her actions ,compete the attention and drive her insane;very often ,this is a womans bestfriend.Every woman also has a former friend(usually from highschool with large breast whom she loathed for years and she will ever loath with intensity like a full-administrative position even if she will never see her).This is her archenemy .Women intristically understand human dynamics and this makes them unstoppable.This is the reason why Mothers are best at spotting “fake friends“.Unfortunately the average ,man is less skillful at fostering such rivalries ,which is why most men remain average.Males are best at hating things that cant hate them back (e.g.,sex toys,cats,RnBs ,et cetera).Most men fail to see a world beyond themselves; if given the choice, they would connect themselves to nothing. But greatness cannot be achieved in a vacuum, and great people know that.

In 2007/2008, the Ronaldo-Messi comparison began,and its always beautiful when they tangle.But Messi’s archenemy isn’t Ronaldo although the chief rival defining his career through head-to-head clashes in La Liga, Champions League, and Ballon d’Or races;It is Alisson Becker.in the space of eighteen months ,the Liverpool keeper helped knock Messi out of three separate competitions by blocking all of his shots.(1).April, 2018 Liverpool knocked Barca 3-0 out of champions league quarter-finals.(2).May 7, 2019 Liverpool staged a comback to slash Barca out of champions league semi-final with 4-0 win. (3). July, 2019 Brazil dumped Argentina out of Copa America 2-0 to reach finals.Uhuru Kenyatta is Raila Odinga’s nemesis ,but if he had only one bullet in his revolver,he’d shoot David Maraga.People have long analogized Arsène Lupin as Sherlock Holmes’s nemesis(Lupin is genuinely good, the kind of thief who makes you fall in love with burglary),but if we are being honest, Lupin lacks the intellectual grandeur to match Holmes, making him a nemesis by charm rather than by design.Holmes had a match ,Moriarty. Holmes had a headache he could never figure out. These two needed each other (well, not really, since they couldn’t figure out ways to unalive each other despite their wit), and so shamelessly Holmes felt embarrassed because he found it fun that he had found his match.The Joker was Batman’s nemesis, but-ironically-his archenemy was Superman, since Superman made Batman seem entirely mortal and generally nonessential. Nobody likes to admit this, but Batman hated Superman; Superman is the reason Batman became an alcoholic.²

Next year,William Samoei Ruto will seek reelection , and whoever the United Opposition end up nominating3 will become Ruto’s “nemesis by default”(although not true nemesis:that will always be Uhuru Kenyatta)But none of the candidate has a shot at becoming Ruto’s archenemy :that designation is inflexible.Ruto’s archenemy is Rigathi Gachagua (mostly because he impeached him in 2024). Rigathi Gachagua will never face the man he hates most:this is why Rigathi Gachagua will never achieve greatness.However, when we get to 2042 when one of Gachagua’s son faces the “first daughter” of his archenemy ,it will be bloodbath.When the famillies of our archenemies collide,skulls get pounded in pulp- refer to Mike Tyson Vs Larry Holmes on January 22, 1988, boxing night.

I realize there are those who don’t think it’s necessary (or even wise) to consciously create adversaries; Francis Atwoli NOM (DZA), CBS, EBS, MBS. claimed that he never met a man he didn’t like. But what is Francis Atwoli famous for, really? for creating phrases and memes ? For holding one administrative (elective) post even before I was born ? Who wants that for a legacy? There is a reason they say, “Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer.” Granted, “they” usually don’t know what they’re talking about, but sometimes “they” get lucky, you know?

Footnotes;

1. Possible exceptions: Millicent Omanga, who rose to the ranks of multi-millionaire by selling bedcovers and bedsheets; former CS (Sports and Heritage) and class seven dropout Rashida Echesa; the late Kalembe Ndile, former Kibwezi MP and standard two dropout; Oscar Sudi, MP for Kapseret, class seven dropout and proud holder of an Honorary Doctorate in Leadership, Administration, and Management; et cetera - and perhaps myself, should my luck arrive early enough.
2. (This phrase is chuck klosterman’s)
3. It wont be Rigathi Gachagua